01. Maximize your singleness for God.
Accept that you’re in a season of life that affords some freedoms and
benefits you will not have if and
when you marry. It is a good season to finish your education, increase your theological knowledge, travel to serve in missions, give time to your church, work long hours to establish  your career, and pay off any debt you may have accrued. In short, invest your single years in a way that they later pay a great return. Do not waste them

02. Do not pursue a serious relationship until you are ready to marry. There are many reasons why people should, for a season, devote their energies to something other than finding a spouse. Getting biblical counseling to overcome a habitual sin such as pornography or substance abuse, maturing as a Christian if they are a new or
immature convert, or simply moving out of their parents’ home and taking on adult responsibilities are all good reasons to delay a serious relationship until a better season of life. Basically, until people are mature enough to marry, they should not be in a serious romantic relationship but should use their energies to mature

03. Be reasonable. Do not set your expectations too high or too low. If you set your expectations too low,
you may marry and be miserable,having made the biggest mistake of your life. If you set your expectations too high, you may never marry, or you may marry the person you think you want but who may not be the one God would
consider best for you. I discourage Christian singles from having too long a list of what they are looking
for in a spouse. The truth is that most of these lists are simply idolatrous because they are comprised of the seekers’ resume and what they like and do, as if the goal of marriage is to find someone just like them rather than someone different from them so that together they can learn to love and serve one another. Few men are looking for a widowed, broke, and homeless gal from a family noted for incest who is a recent convert with a bitter mother-in-law in tow. But her name is Ruth, and Boaz was blessed to marry her, and through her came Jesus

04. Do not be legalistic about dating.
There is a difference between a date and dating. A date can be two people spending time together, going out for
a meal or coffee after church to get to know one another in a non-sexual manner. Dating as is practiced by
non-Christians is not acceptable for Christians. Still, the word dating is not worth quibbling over, as Paul
tells us not to quarrel over words. Whether we call it “a date” or something else, time together does
not need to be considered a dating relationship. In 1 Timothy 5:1–2 ,Paul tells Christian single men to
treat Christian single women like sisters. Thus, since adult brothers and sisters talk to one another,
enjoy one another’s company, and occasionally enjoy a meal together,it is not a sin for two single Christians to enjoy time together,getting to know one another, so that they can see if there is the possibility of a more serious
relationship that leads to courtship and marriage.

05. Do not have any romantic relationship with someone who is a non-Christian. The reasons here are almost limitless. Since you cannot marry a non-Christian, getting emotionally involved is pointless and only leads to sin and/or heartache. Since Jesus is at the center of your life, a non-Christian will not even understand who you are. Because you submit to Scripture and unbelievers do not, your relationship with one has no court of arbitration in which to resolve your differences. An unbeliever is not in covenant with Jesus, so he or she has no covenental framework for any relationship with you. If he or she is not a Christian, you have no means of dealing with sin that will come between the two of you, because you do not both believe in the gospel of Jesus’ death for sin. Indeed, you can have non-romantic evangelistic relationships with non-Christians,but if the parties involved are single,the odds of attraction are high, and it is usually best to introduce the non-Christians to your Christian friends of the opposite gender so that an evangelistic relationship can form.

06. You should be in a romantic
relationship with only one person at a time. Ultimately, the goal of a Christian not called to singleness is not to have a boyfriend or girlfriend but to have a spouse. It is cruel to date multiple people at one time, having them compete for your affections. Furthermore, it is better preparation for adultery than it is for covenant marriage.

07. He should initiate and she should respond. Because the Bible
repeatedly states that the husband is to be the loving and leading head of the family, any romantic relationship should begin with the man taking initiative to kindly and respectfully request an opportunity to get to know the woman better. Too many Christian men are too timid and need to have more courage to risk rejection in their pursuit of a wife.
Any woman who is not interested in,say, a group outing or a cup of coffee need simply say no, and the
man should respect that answer.

08. You need to look at who God puts in front of you. Too many singles are looking over people in their church and life who do love God in pursuit of a mythical person, who does not exist. Yet, in God’s providence, good potential spouses are right in front of them. Furthermore, while a woman should not chase a man, she canwisely put herself in front of him.
This is precisely what happened in the story of Ruth and Boaz. Although God providentially put Ruth at work  gleaning for food in the field of Boaz, Boaz did not consider her a potential wife until Ruth took the counsel of the older woman Naomi and got
dressed up and went to the same big party as Boaz, where she did not chase him but did get in his way.
The result? One of the greatest love stories in the Bible.